Since I left Germany in 1992, after starring for a year in Starlight Express in Bochum, and earning more money than I knew what to do with, my life has mostly been all downhill, with lots of loops and curves. I would always ask myself why?
Through two marriages, three births of my beautiful children, and more changes than I could possibly list here, that some deem to be unfitting for a human being, I could never find the answer to LIFE!
"Why are we here", I would always ask myself and others, including my Pastor, when I was a Christian.
I don't know if it's just wisdom with aging or my father's passing that kicked something into me, causing me to have a drive I haven't had in 25 years, but the answer is becoming abundantly obvious to me.
We are here to love, cherish, and appreciate all we have in life, despite hard times. How is this done? Through the power of positivity!!
For the last 25 years, I walked around with a chip on my shoulder, blaming everything, and everyone I could for the downfalls in my life. Negativity should have been my first name!
In the past four months, I have put out a second book, experienced living somewhere other than our great country of America, and have started to rebuild my life here again, after returning to the state of NY.
I have finally come to realize that it is not ME that is important, or what I want, or what makes me happy that is the fulfillment of a joyous life.
I have recently found that it is what you do for others, putting their needs first, and making choices that can help give others a better life. Whether it be returning to finish raising my precious 9-year-old son, or eventually being able to help someone with money, the key to all of it is a positive attitude. Believing, that no matter the odds, and no matter who is against you, a positive attitude will pay off in the long run.
When others look at you, they are looking for someone who breathes life into others. An attitude that all people should be loved, and appreciated. It's believing that you can be successful, by negating the negativity!
I have opened up to others, more than I have in the past 25 years. I got out of my head, and have decided to live each day for what it is, and to not dwell on past mistakes, or to try and figure out what my future should be based on my wants and needs, but to base the future on what I am doing today that will positively affect others in life.
I struggled for years, with putting my own addictions, whether it be marijuana, alone time, always needing to be right, proving others wrong, ahead of others...whatever my falsities were, they kept me on the same path. I could never seem to break free.
In Germany for my second time, I had hoped to escape all that was bad in my life, but instead, that change showed me all that was good in my life in America! Things such as having an amazing son that I missed, two other children, whom although we don't talk, still mean the world to me, and I can still find ways to support, without communication from them; great people that I could make friends by treating them better, and being more outgoing, happy, and positive around; doing what I love in writing, and all the great things America has for us, that one doesn't appreciate until it's all gone.
Also, against all odds, a mother whom I struggle to get along with that still supported me when I returned, and I did my best to do things for, to show my appreciation. Something I had never considered in the past because it was always all about ME!
This article may sound like it's about me, but it's not. It's about what we can do for others, and how we can breathe out positivity, and love to others all the time, without fail, no matter the circumstances, and keeping a stable attitude and personality, that others can come to count on, without concern as to how you're going to act the next time they hear from you or run into you.
I have done that. I have made a permanent change to speak positively and support others on social media, to engage, and be fun at parties, and to show excitement in what others have to offer, as well. For example, being joyous at karaoke when you hear a friend singing, or even strangers you don't know, no matter how they perform, but to celebrate their strength in getting up and giving it their best try.
When you look at the world this way, you can always find good and positivity in everything, despite any walls you might hit, or issues that may arise, and you find ways to work around them on a daily basis, instead of letting them bring you down, and force you back into a grumbling, unhappy, useless persona!
I hope that this article helps others who are also struggling with the same negativity I once enveloped, and shows them that life can change, if they change, and create a new lease on life, through love, positive energy, and acceptance of others. Putting others before yourself!
A drug addiction comes from self-inflicting wounds, not the world around you. We all are affected by the hard things in life, not just you! Once you realize that and fully accept that it is you putting you in the position you are in, it becomes easier to kick a bad habit and to make changes that will surely make you happier.
So, get off the self-absorbing false carousel, and jump into the world of love that is awaiting you, and be the light that shines for others!
Written by: Colin Bruce Munro Wood - 4:25PM ET, 06.24.2017
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Heart and Soul Commentary
The World At A View Magazine
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